Okay, I'm going to admit that I've used this forum to bitch about some things. I don't really bitch about everything, though it sometimes seems like it. Really, I'm just voicing things that I think about, things that bother me or things that I'm worried about.I've said this before and I have no problem saying it again, it's been tough living where we are right now. I don't regret the decision and if it came up, we'd do it again. It's just been tough...because we are so far away.
Both TLB (The Lovely Bride) and I have never lived so far away from friends and family. Yeah, I know, I spent a year and a half in Lynchburg, Virginia...but that was in 1988 and I was fresh out of college and didn't know any better.I don't like touching on this subject very much. It really bothers TLB, she, wrongly, feels that it's her fault we are now in Cincinnati. It isn't. She got promoted to a great job. An opportunity that we had to do for her career. We jumped on it this time...and wouldn't hesitate to do it again.
She's going to read this and get upset. Honey, please don't. We did what we had to do. We have to live our lives and do what is best for us, coming up to Cincinnati, though not perfect, is something that we had to do.
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| Mom-Daisy and Hallie-X-mas 2004/courtesy: me |
Yeah, my friends aren't close by either. But most of them are people that I've met and became friendly with at different places...not all of them have lived where I did. I'm good with that.
Really, I think it started bothering me over the holiday's. TLB, the Wonder Dog and I piled in a car and drove...12+ hours to Wilmington, North Carolina, 3-days before Christmas last year. Sure, the drive sucked, it was all through the mountains, but I wasn't working at the time either.
As you all know, I'm working now. But in typical TV-ness, I'm low on the totem pole, so guess who is working during the holidays--all of them. It's going to be tough. We don't really have anyone here to spend the holidays with and the family won't be able to come see us.
As I write this, I'm lamenting a few things. My mother, just had surgery to remove what was called a "Rather Large" bone spur out of her back. She's had trouble with her back for some time and never really knew why. The problem is, they had to insert 3 screws among other things to stabilize her back.
What is worse is the rehab. It's going to be awhile before she's going to be able to get around, there is a lot of physical therapy ahead. The parents now live in Bluffton, SC. The surgery, was done in Beaufort, about an hour away.
But the part that has me worried is her getting taken care of once she's sent home. My father (the chief) really tries, but he's got his own set of problems. He's been taking a cancer medication to prevent the return of the Non-Hodgkins lymphoma that he had back in 1998. It's been draining on him physically. Well, that and he's 70 now.
Maybe I'm worrying too much and they'll handle everything just fine. No, actually, I'm really hoping that is the case. As much as I want to go down to see them and help, that is neither simple or easy for me to do. Not to say that I couldn't...and I still may, but I don't have to do it immediately.
It's true that you really can't live or plan your life around others, you can't. This too will pass and things will continue moving forward....they always do. But sometimes you lament, sometimes you think about things.
TLB and i will be fine, we've got each other. We are being good residents up here. We have explored things and gone to stuff that people who've lived here all their lives have never done. I just felt like I needed to get this out there. Like I said at the beginning, it's been on my mind for a couple of weeks. One of the reasons that I write this is to get stuff off of my brain so they don't weigh me down, so that's what I did.
Here is the appropriate music for the title. Foreigner if you will, thanks YouTube:
